Dear Multi-Passionate Woman,
You and I, we’re cut from the same cloth. We have the same gifts and abilities and the same fears and doubts. From the outside, we may look, dare I say – flakey, to the untrained eye. But I assure you we’re the mad geniuses that make the world an exciting place.
For most of my life, I thought there was something wrong with me.
For ALL of my adult life, despite progressing in a steady, long term career making good money, I continued to think there was something wrong with me.
I wasn’t like the rest of them – the people I worked with who had a real hard-on for their job.
I wasn’t hell bent on climbing the ladder. I didn’t even want to be on the ladder.
I felt like an alien 100% of the time.
I was disguised in a sea of muggles, trying to hide my magic.
And that’s exhausting. It’s particularly difficult for people like us, because we have a gift. Not only are we multi-passionate, but we see the innate gifts and talents in others. And I’m not sure about you, but I constantly want to tell people about the things I know they would be good at.
I don’t actually do it (mostly because I’ve also learned that when I start to focus too hard on helping someone else – who likely didn’t come asking for my help – it’s because I’m exhausted by my own ideas that I haven’t seen thought yet).
It’s not easy being us, is it!?
Obviously as multi-passionates, we have our own ideas that need tending to. And as you know, it’s not just one or two. There have been hundreds over the years.
We’ve had idea after idea. And not just ideas, but good ideas.
We’ve pursued some of them to the point of obsession, right? Eating, sleeping and drinking these ideas. Meticulously cultivating their growth. Tending to every minute detail. Sometimes spending ridiculous amounts of money.
Until…we don’t anymore. Until another, possibly better idea comes along…and we move on.
Any one of those ideas could have been a smashing success. And the only reason they weren’t, at least for me, was because I didn’t pursue them. I didn’t keep going. I either got over it, was overcome by other events, or I became mesmerized by another great idea. But make no mistake…any one of my ideas could have made money and been successful.
That’s the thing about us multi-passionates. We have really damn good ideas. And they are viable ideas and could be money-making businesses.
But we tend to not follow through. And it’s not because we’re flakey.
We are in fact, mad geniuses.
We can’t be bothered with the follow through. We are too busy generating more beautiful ideas. I honestly believe that. It’s a gift.
But just like everything in life, the polarity that lies here, is that it can feel like a curse if you don’t know how to fully harness it.
And that can hurt. It can start to make you feel like there’s something wrong with you.
I can’t tell you how much money I have spent creating things that I didn’t go all the way with. And it’s the same story with other multi-passionate people I know. So much money and time – gone.
Because our affliction is not about the money. It is about the visionary possibility of it all. It’s the gift we were born with: To see possibility everywhere.
But, left untamed, it creates self-doubt. You start to wonder if you’re flaky. Or if you’re not cut out to be an entrepreneur. Sometimes you mourn the great ideas that never came to life. You wonder if you’ll ever make any money. Or at least enough money to create the life you really want to create.
You fear that if you start something and it does start making money that you’ll eventually not be able to sustain it because you don’t know who you have to be in order to keep it alive. Because to this point, mostly you have not been the person who is awesome at the follow through.
It’s a vicious cycle. But, let me reassure you that you are indeed a visionary genius. There is nothing wrong with you. You just need to learn to tame your gift.
With that said, let me share a few lessons from a multi-passionate who finally saw something through and set up a business that works and makes lots of money.
- I didn’t initially pick the business that I felt the MOST passionate about. I did feel passion for it, but not necessarily on a soul level. I felt passion because there was a beginning, middle and end. I knew who I needed to be during the whole process and that helped me go the distance. And I could MAKE money. That’s a pretty important part of entrepreneurship. Once you are established and self-sustaining, then you can make more time for the passion projects. But first, create a sense of security for yourself. It’s hard to create beautiful things when your constantly in panic mode because you don’t know where your money is going to come from, or because you are going to a job you hate. Both killers of creativity. So pick the idea that you can make money from the quickest, and go the distance with it. Because all of your ideas are good ideas. So, pick the best one and put on blinders to everything else until you’ve made it.
- The truest advice I’ve heard for the multi-passionate is, not every idea you have has to be turned into a business. Holy shit, what a concept. Not everything has to be a business. What? And let’s go a little further, not every idea you have needs to be pursued RIGHT NOW. The absolute truth is that you have to FINISH something if you want to have success. Bottom line.
- I don’t know about you, but I have like 4-6 journals going at any given time. Designate one to your ideas. That way you can write it down and know that it’s safely documented without feeling like you have to begin executing immediately. One of your biggest roadblocks will be continuing to do too many things at once. You will have to learn to rein yourself in.
- Have an accountability buddy. Preferably another multi-passionate. Someone who can be a sounding board and cheerleader for your ideas, but can also help you stay the course when you try to abandon your progress to start something new. You will both need to be strong for each other. It’s like AA for entrepreneurs.
You don’t need to be someone else – you were made this way. You, with your world full of possibilities – are a unicorn in human form. What you need, is to find like-minded people to surround yourself with, and some accountability.